Our pace today often leaves us more stressed out; despite technology touting that it will make our lives more effective, productive, or manageable. When we cannot employ the K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple Silly) method to control the clutter in our office and house or the non-stop chatter in our heads, what can we do? To take back control we have to take responsibility for our thoughts, emotions, and actions. Here is one thing you can start doing today, regardless of the economy and everyone else’s agendas to take control of your stress.
What’s something I can do to feel in control and not feel rushed?
Start your day like you intend to end your day. Men need to produce more of their stress-reducing hormone, testosterone; and women need to produce more of their stress-reducing hormone, oxytocin, to feel less rushed. In doing stress-reducing activities for a few minutes several times throughout the day you help your body to excrete stress-producing hormones like cortisol. The excess cortisol in our bodies is partly why we feel the constant need to do things and keeping adding to our to-do lists. Make a pledge to yourself to do a stress-reducing activity: upon waking, mid-day, before going to sleep.
An oxytocin producing activity for women includes: any activity that makes you feel connected and nurturing either to you or for others.
-Scented bubble bath
-Giving yourself a facial
-Cuddling with your pet, partner, kids
-Enjoying the sun rise/set with a warm drink
-Reading a “fun” book
A testosterone producing activity for men includes: any activity that allows your mind and/or muscles rest or re-group.
-Sitting and daydreaming
-Watching the news
-Checking sports scores
-Reading for enjoyment
-Doing a little bit on your hobby
Waking up this morning I smile twenty-four new hours are before me I vow to live fully in each moment and to look at all beings with eyes of compassion. –Thich Nhat Hanh
Before you engage in the day, wake up and do something for 5-10 minutes that allows you to start your day off on the right foot by doing something for only you. The only thing we can really control is ourselves. If we find that we feel rushed, overwhelmed, unsupported, unimportant, alone, or ignored throughout the day, then the way we feel less like this is to do something counter to this feeling. It’s not just thinking positive, but doing an action which evokes positive emotions.
The key is to do stress-reducing activities throughout the day so you do not deplete your testosterone/oxytocin stores as you deal with chronic, daily stressors. Once you are mindful and practicing this throughout the day, your exhaustion will lift, the negative chatter in your head will lessen, and you’ll feel lighter; instead of like you’re barely able to keep your head above the waterline while you’re treading water. There’s nothing wrong with becoming accustomed to arresting busyness for the sake of peace. Namaste~