The older we get the less we believe in finding a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow. By now we’ve chased rainbows down on foot, on our bike, in the car—and we have yet to find the lucky leprechaun and his pot of gold. As we get older and play the dating game, it can often feel like we’re chasing an elusive dream of “the One.”
It gets easier to sit at home after a long day of work. We’re tired, want to relax, and dread getting dolled up to go look for the relationship that will yield the same euphoria as finding that pot of gold.
There are several things we can do to increase our chances of finding someone compatible.
First up…where are you going to meet potential dates? Take a minute to jot down a list of where you usually go to find dates.
Then assess how successful you think you do at finding dates? Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10; 1 being not the greatest and 10 being a regular heart breaker.
You will move up one notch on the scale and become a more available dater if you ask yourself the following questions and make a plan.
Next, ask yourself where you’re most comfortable and yourself when you’re meeting people. Do you prefer quiet places like a café or loud crowded places like the local bar? Do you prefer to be outdoors or indoors? Do you prefer to talk 1-on-1, in small groups of 2 or 3, or in large groups of 4 or more?
Why not set yourself up for success by placing yourself in the places where you act most like yourself? You can increase your chances of finding dates in places where you are most yourself—carefree, unselfconscious, and relaxed. If you find yourself worn out at the end of a work day and the only place on your list is your home, then don’t fret just make a list of things that interest you.
Check local newspapers and online groups in your area to find other people interested in the same things. Then get your calendar out, and start planning some meet up dates in person. Immerse yourself in interests and hobbies that you’re passionate about pursuing. Chances are you’ll be in the right place at the right time to meet singles who have similar interests. And, as you add to your hobbies, and have fun interacting with others in your groups—who knows what will happen. It’s up to you to decide.
Lyndsay Katauskas, MEd
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